I would have to deviate a bit from the topic of sex and lay a foundation about having a healthy relationship and foundation for a relationship. Obviously sex is an integral part, but it is normally misused so we would touch other aspects before we delve into sex.
Contrary to popular belief and breakup/ divorce statistics, love can last for a long time! A recent psychological research study revealed that there is such as thing as “happily ever after.” Heres a brief summary of those research findings, plus four ways to make love last for the long-term.
Science Shows That Romance Can Last in Long-Term Relationships/ Marriages
"Many people believe that romantic love is the same as passionate love," said psychology researcher Bianca P. Acevedo, PhD. "It isn't. Romantic love has the intensity, engagement and sexual chemistry that passionate love has, minus the obsessive component. Passionate or obsessive love includes feelings of uncertainty and anxiety. This kind of love helps drive the shorter relationships but not the longer ones."
Acevedo and her peers looked at 17 short-term relationship studies, which included 18- to 23-year-old college students who were single, dating or married, with the average relationship lasting less than four years. They also looked at 10 long-term relationship studies comprising middle-aged couples who were typically married 10 years or more.
They found that long-term love can progress into a healthy, companionship/friendship type of love, which will last for the long term. This type of romantic love in relationshipcan extend for a lifetime of "happily ever after"!
How do couples make love last? Here are four tips for the long haul.
1. 1. Be “There” for Your Partner
This research shows that couples who feel supported in their relationship are happier. On the other hand, "feelings of insecurity are generally associated with lower satisfaction, and in some cases may spark conflict in the relationship,” says Acevedo. “This can manifest into obsessive love." To build a successful relationship, both spouses need to be there for each other.
2. 2. Remember the Stages of Love
Long-term romantic relationships go through distinct stages of love – and the passionate love at the beginning can’t be sustained throughout the whole relationship leading to marriage!
If partners are aware of the “highs and lows” in love, the happier they’ll be for the long-term (because they won’t have unrealistic expectations for romance or passion).
3. 3. Let Go of the Little Things in a Relationship
The trivialities of daily life can undermine a loving relationship. Instead of getting caught up in details that are likely petty and unimportant, focus on the big picture.
For instance, be grateful that the when you come visit one another the home is clean (instead of fretting that it wasn’t cleaned in a particular).
4. 4. Maintain a Strong Friendship
To build romantic love, take time and energy to be friends with each other. Learn new things together, such as how to mix drinks, bake, and prepare a particular meal or how to play a new game. Take an adventure vacation together. Read books together, about companion love and building a happy relationship. Make it a habit to please and give your partner what he or she needs as much as possible.
Source of the Research Findings:
Review of General Psychology, published by the American Psychological Association
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