GENTLEMEN AND DATING PART 4

We would be concluding the series on 'gentlemen and dating' with this write up on needs of both sexes

Gentlemen and Dating Part 4....
All of us have physical needs. A child also needs to be touched. But to think that a relationship must involve sex is wrong. There are many other ways of expressing ourselves physically other than sex. This applies to both men and women. It is not that men are more sexually demanding. Both the genders need to be pampered in many different ways.


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For example, if a woman needs to be held while crying or need to have a back rub, the man would appreciate her reciprocating in a way that will satisfy his ‘manly’, emotional or psychological needs. We all know that there are MANY different ways to satisfy those needs besides intercourse. There is a good saying that ‘every man wants a lady in public but a PRO in the bedroom.’ It’s not very hard to figure out what that all means to each of us, and it certainly might be different for each of us.

Many young people struggle with their moral upbringing when dating. They hear their friends brag about conquests and wonder how much of it is true. We are doing a serious disservice to the young people today by not being honest about sex. Seeing R-rated movies and sex magazines gives young men ideas that about sexual behavior and prowess that is sure to cause many problems with their mate or spouse. The days of yesteryear where the man initiated sex, the positions, and the frequencies is pretty much placed in the dinosaur section of the library. The newest scientific finding that dark chocolate is good for you may play a bigger part in the man’s role to attract a female. At any rate, it will give them something to talk about while they get to know each other before any sex takes place.
WELLLL !!!!THATS ALL FOLKS, WE WOULD  BE SWITCHING TO SOMETHING MUCH MORE 'RAUNCHIER' IN SUBSEQUENT TOPICS...SO KEEP YOUR EYES GLUED ON THIS SPACE......

Gentlemen preferred: A book of etiquette for boys

GENTLEMEN AND DATING PART 3

hi there, we are continuing on our dating tips.....

Gentlemen and Dating Part 3......

In gentlemen and dating ? Part 1 and 2, we explored the differences in women’s take on sex from their point of view compared to a man’s take. In Part 3 and 4 we will continue to explore the differences and learn more about desires of men and women. The view of the now famous book, Women Are from Venus and Men Are from Mars, is yet another piece of evidence that shows how men and women feel about the same topics.

When talking to women (i seem to have more female friends than male friends) , and a few men, I have discovered that most of the similarities of both sexes revolve around which person is being asked. Although the general desire of most men is equal, the general desire of women is also equal.

I might not be married but I feel that a good marriage can remain the same after many years. It may not be the same as it was in the beginning but between the husband and wife, there is understanding, caring, sharing, gentleness and love. There are also alternatives that keep the marriage alive, happy and fully satisfying. I think that open, honest communication of what a person likes and dislikes, and what will be acceptable or not, is the best way for any couple to remain dedicated to and in love with each other for many years.

When talking about individuals (or single people), I think it is hard to find companionship and intimacy without sex coming in to play at some time. Saving sex for marriage is one of the things that I have noticed changing lately. That is just another facet of getting to know somebody. Of course, safe sex always needs to be practiced and all the warnings given about being used and feeling used if the relationship is one sided. The good thing is that if we openly communicate what we each want, we have a better chance of getting it.

......this article was culled from a write on romance guide, i was short of words to type 

GENTLEMEN AND DATING (PART 2)

HEY.....im back in your face. We would be continuing with  our dating series...if you missed last part you can get it on
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Gentlemen and Dating (Part 2)...........
........ Some, not most, men prefer to have a lady on their arm in public and a ‘pro’ in their bed. As far as casual sex goes, women still make those decisions. It is unfortunate that some women play games and act like teases, but only the inexperienced man will fall for that kind of game playing. Same is true for a woman going out to dinner and not knowing what to do afterwards if the man expects pay back. A simple goodnight kiss and saying that it was fun should be enough.



My belief is that intimacy is just as important as sex. In the long run, it really has nothing to do with being over-sexed or under-sexed, just that men and women have different needs. Questions about mechanical versus natural intercourse can be answered by saying that release is just that, a release. A man wants the release (and doesn’t much care how he gets it) whereas a woman wants to feel ‘loved’, cuddled, embraced, felt needed and desirous.
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Most women that will talk about their relationship will admit that their interpretation of sex centers on a man’s ability to be intimate and loving in bed. They readily admit to having sex many of the times that a man initiates it, but they enjoy it to the fullest when the man has paid attention to her needs of cuddling and talking before hand.

In Gentlemen and Dating Part 3, we explore some of the things that make men and women different when it comes to their sex drive.

GENTLEMEN AND DATING (Part 1)

Hey i'm back from a long self imposed break from blogging, had to take time out to sort my own relationship...lol. I believe at this point i can tell you that i just got ENGAGED..!!! yes..she agreed for me and plans are in top gear for the marriage but the most important thing now is completion of our 'marriage counseling courses' (which i have issues with...gist for another topic)...maybe after my wedding i would use my dating process as a testimony to application of some of the advices here.
well we would be readdressing the issue of dating and taking it from a guys perspective to dating. This discussion would be in 4 parts....so enjoy!!
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Gentlemen and Dating.....
.....What is the right combination of factors that would make a man act more like an ‘animal’ rather than a gentleman on dates? If a woman, straight out lets a guy know there are certain ‘rules’ for dating her, then many potential dates would never happen. I have a female friend. When a guy would ask her out on a date , she would tell him that sounded good, but she needed to know that she wouldn’t have sex because of a date. If he were interested in her for more than sex, then he would continue to pursue her. If he wanted more, than she would not hear from him again.

Most people have their shares of men who wanted something for something. Even at work, my friend who stays alone and works in one of the new generation banks, she became friendly with a boss who soon was telling her that she could go very far with the job, and then he showed up at her apartment door. She talked to him, at the door, but did not let him come in. He became very mean  towards her at work  but he still did not get to first base. She did eventually transfer out of that position so She didn’t have to be subjected to him and his ‘come-ons

Of course men want to have sex whenever and wherever they can, but that does not mean that the woman has to agree. Different sizes or shapes of women don’t make a man more or less ready, willing and eager to have sex. Whether you are shapely or not, your body type and personality attracts certain kinds of guys. If you have already set the game rules, then you shouldn’t need to worry about the man trying to get his share of your desserts after dinner and a movie.

I'd continue this on the next part...keep your eyes peeled!!!

DATING TIPS

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I would want to share some dating tips i've used and some i culled online. And it has to be noted that the tips vary on application depending on the individual involved.

Simple Tip For Girls from a Guy.....obviously me!!!
We may not like to show it but we like to know that we are wanted and needed as well. 
We like little surprises just as much as you infact we are not a lot different we like to be touched and told how much u care. Always be honest with each us and communication is the key to any good relationship make sure u talk about what makes u happy and any problems or fears.
 We like to meet your friends whether  male or female , although we dont like to hear how great or sweet your other male friend is.

How To Avoid Making a Guy Get Confused (or Vise versa)
If your interested in going out with a guy keep in mind that us guys can get rather confused rather easily. It makes no difference whether a guy is a genius or a D'banj, he can still get very confused very easily. As such you may want to consider making things simple for us.
First of all, if your interested in us, let us know! We're far less likely to act if we think your not interested in us. If you are, let us know, use glances, head movements, fidgets, if we're interested, we'll often be watching for this stuff. (though we are pretty dumb, we might not always pick up on it.)
If a guy asks you on a date, you've got a pretty clear choice, yes or no. We'll get to yes in a minute, but if your going to say no theres a few reasons right? First off, your not interested. If thats the case, make it clear. After all, if you don't like a guy, do you really want him to keep asking you out? Cause theres a good chance he will unless he knows you don't like him. (we're dumb, it usually takes us a while to figure this stuff out) If you DO like him, but you can't go for some reason, let him know, give your reason, and ask if you can maybe do it another time? Or, swear that your not trying to get out of another relationship, you just really have to do (insert important activity here) and continue talking to him, if you turn him down for a date, and continue to have a long conversation, he can be pretty certain that your interested, just unable to make that date.
If you don't like something we're doing (something we say, something we do, intimate behaviors) just tell us straight out, OR raise the eyebrows at us and frown, we can usually understand that one.
Just remember, us guys are incredibly STUPID at times, we often haven't a clue what were doing, and sending us subtle clues often just adds to our confusion.

Mixed Signals, Playing Hard to Get is a Total Turn Off
As is often mentioned much of dating or attempts at dating turns into one side or the other attempting to figure out their intentions.Guys who know what they want are not desperate, not going settle for much less than sought out for, especially if they've been successful with certain girls in the past; therefore if you play hard to get like has been done to me all to often usually we will just move on.
I am not referring to the girl "holding out" or "initial shakara", just dating in general. Also you like a guy a lot, but want to make him chase you a bit. He might be willing to briefly; however after a while he will become suspicious of things such as...
1)Are you actually single
2)Are you interested
3)Is he just a 2nd or 3rd choice so you only act interested when you feel insecure about #1 working out.
4)What are your overall intentions

Remember guys have feelings too. The macho act some of these so-called badboys is just that "an act". Those guys often turn out to be the most insecure. Its a main reason most relationships do not last.
Many guys who do have that intial line and are smooth in 'toasting' which draws females end up to be nothing like they sold themselves as...meanwhile the guys that come off too nice, 'egbe like', creepy, etc...often turnout to be the best lovers, and most secure in the longterm.
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Ok guys ive been talking more about our needs, we also have to try to figure the girls out!!!
Most girls like it when u talk to them, a text or call from time to time but dont over do it.
A lot of girls like a challenge just like us guys. If  you fall for a girl and tell her exactly how you feel from the get-go she will lose some interest unless she really likes you already. But if she doesnt have very strong feelings she will kinda move on but not all the way. If you tell her from the beginning she will already know she has you and she wont have to work for it. Therefor she loses interest in you but not all the way. She will start to look at other guys but she wont completely forget you. If she cant get the guy she really wants she knows she has you to fall back on.
So my advice to you is to play it cool and talk to her just to let her know you are interested but not enough for her to know you like her. This will keep her guessing and wanting more and more attention from you. If you do it right she will start talking to you constantly and you just have to reel her in.

Ok i've exhausted my dating tips, decided to go snooping online and came up with this interesting write up ...enjoy!!!

  Beat A Guy At His Game
The title isnt supposed to be taken literally!
1 and foremost every girl should keep a mystery to herself... cuz lets face it guys get bored easily!
2 if you and a guy have just exchanged numbers dont call him or text him unless you're really interested. If he hasnt called or texted you in a week then don't bother, not your loss.
3 If he has called or texted within the next couple of days and asks you out, make sure there is a 5-7 day window before you 2 go out. Ex: If he asks you to go out tomorrow say you're busy and give him a day about 5-7 days later. Make sure he thinks you HAVE a life :]
4 Never bring up your ex's guys HATE THAT! & if he brings up his ex's then politely change the subject, he'll probaby get the hint.
5 its always best for the girl to be a strong figure, so he'll know he cant walk all over you. So dont be too nice but make sure you're not a complete jerk to him. Say thank you when he compliments you, but don't think you need to return the favor of complimenting him back. For every 3 compliments he gives you, give him 1 back. it's all a game...
6 it's good to make a guy laugh, they love to be entertained just as much as we do. So if there's an awkward moment make a joke or say something sarcastic(not rude or mean)
7 Hold off on kissing him your first date. Save it until your 2nd or 3rd... Some ppl cant wait til the 3rd haha And if the kissing is good or bad, tease him... Kiss his neck, breathe softly into his ear... it'll drive him crazy!8 once you've started dating talk about both of your qworks or pet peeves it helps keep arguments at bay. And always do fun/new things with each other. It's best to not get romantic too fast it's better to be spontaneous for a while!
9 if he's busy find something to do, don't constantly call or text him. That makes you seem needy. And if you are the needy type FIGHT THE URGE, IT TOTALLY PAYS OFF! And dont always question guys they hate that as much as we do! Ex: He doesnt answer, he calls you back and your immediate reaction is "so what were you doin? you couldnt answer?!" makes things very hostile. 
10 Always impose honesty. Make sure you let him know he can tell you anything, even if he screws up. But ladies dont always forgive them if they screw up 2x it's time to leave. However, forgive but dont always forget! And if you have a cheating problem, try to avoid situations of temptation! Relationships are 2way streets, it's a compromise.
11 if you're not happy with the relationship, it's better to call it quits. If you're asking your girls about if you should stay with him, you should already know that you cant hold on to it anymore. 
12 if you're in a bad mood, give him a warning so if youre pms-ing and you snap he knows whats up! 
13 it's not only up to guys to show they care, us girls need to do the same. Bake him cookies, or buy him a cute shirt... It's never about how much something costs, it matters if it came from the heart! but DONT EVER spoil a guy, they take advantage just like some girls do! 

.............I really dont support some of the lines, but felt its good to get other views.

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